Moving forward…but apart July 23, 2012
The match for my second journey has come to an end. I went for beta blood work on Friday to see if we were pregnant, with a less than 1 on the reading, it was conclusive that we were not successful. As we had tried a fresh embryo transfer the month before, and now a failed frozen, it was decided that moving on would be best. I wish the fathers all the best in reaching their dreams. I hope that their next surrogate is a compatible match for them and they are holding their baby in their arms soon.
Where will my journey go from here? I have updated my profile at my consultant’s and will wait for another parent profile to cross her desk that will match with mine. I feel that as it is summer, this is a good time to take a minute for myself. To enjoy my kids before school starts again, and when that match comes in we can shoot for a fall transfer.
I will update my journey as things move forward, but please continue checking in, as I will still be making surrogacy related posts. Have a wonderful Summer everyone!
Pregnancy Weight Gain
Antenatal Appointment Scheduler
IVF Pregnancy Due Date
Getting enough liquid is even more crucial during pregnancy as insufficient water intake can play a role in constipation, extreme fatigue, headaches … even preterm labor.
During pregnancy, your body needs 8 to 12 8-ounce glasses per day and it’s a good idea to get closer to that 12 glasses mark during the summer or if you exercise often. Yes, that means you’ll have to pee even more often (if that even seems possible!), but you’ll be glad you made the effort.
What water does for you and your baby:
*Helps eliminate waste from the body, transports vitamins, minerals and other important nutrients to blood cells and helps those cells absorb those nutrients.
*Keeps you comfortable by helping your body stay cooler and keeping fatigue at bay
*Keeps excessive water retention under control. While some swelling is expected during pregnancy (and often is worse during the summer), staying hydrated helps it from getting worse.
*Helps with dry skin.
Tips to keep cool and stay hydrated:
*Carry a water bottle with you so you can drink small amounts at a time all day long.
*Wear breathable clothing, such as lightweight t-shirts or flowy dresses
*Run your errands in the morning or afternoon. Avoid being outdoors between noon and 3 p.m. if possible to avoid the hottest part of the day.
*Take a cool shower.
*Go for a swim in the pool. Swimming will not only cool you off, but it’s a great exercise during pregnancy and can also relieve muscle and joint soreness.
*Wear a hat while outside and sit in the shade whenever possible.
If you experience any signs of dehydration, such as excessive fatigue, headache, thirst, dark urine or light-headedness, drink some water and contact your doctor if that doesn’t help your symptoms.
Not a fan of water? I’m usually not either, but there are other ways to get the hydration you need!
*Sparking or flavored water
*Fruit or vegetable juice (diluted with water to cut down on the calorie and sugar intake)
*Water-rich fruits and vegetables, such as watermelon, grapes or celery
*Limit intake of soda and caffeine as these can actually make dehydration worse
Sources: American Pregnancy Association, What to Expect
Most pregnant women should be able to play some sports at some level throughout most of their pregnancy. Your doctor may advise you to avoid playing sports if you have a pregnancy-related medical condition like pre-eclampsia, or if you are carrying a high-risk pregnancy such as multiple fetuses. It is important to avoid getting overheated during pregnancy.
Pregnancy is a natural condition, not an illness. Unless you have complications, it should be possible to enjoy your sport at some level throughout most of your pregnancy.
Factors to consider
Before you decide whether to continue playing your chosen sport throughout pregnancy, consider the following factors:
Your health and the risk status of your pregnancy
Your stage of pregnancy
The type of sport you play
The degree of exertion required during play
The risk of overheating during play
The risk of injury during play.
You should discuss these issues with your doctor before you decide.
Your health and the risk status of your pregnancy
In some cases your doctor may advise you to avoid playing sports if you have a pregnancy-related medical condition like pre-eclampsia, or if you are carrying a high-risk pregnancy such as multiple fetuses. You may be asked to try low-impact exercises, such as walking or swimming, as alternatives.
Stage of pregnancy
Generally, the baby is cushioned in the amniotic sac. However, a hard blow to your belly could damage the placenta and affect the baby’s blood and oxygen supply. During the first trimester, the baby is small enough to be protected by your pelvic bones. As your pregnancy progresses, the growing baby is no longer shielded by your pelvis, which puts it at direct risk if you fall or heavily contact another player.
Changes during pregnancy
There are many changes during pregnancy that may affect your sporting performance:
Increase in body weight – as your body shape changes, the centre of gravity moves forward increasing the curvature of your spine. This makes rapid changes in direction difficult. The increase in body size can also make some activities uncomfortable (for example jogging), particularly in the last trimester.
Loosening of all ligaments – during pregnancy your joints will gradually loosen up ready for the birth. This creates an increased risk of injury. Take care with contact sports and any sport that involves jumping and frequent changes of direction.
Increase in resting heart rate – pregnancy increases your resting heart rate, so pre-pregnancy heart rate targets are not reliable. If you are a healthy pregnant sportsperson, your can monitor the intensity of exercise by your exertion symptoms. You should stop when you are tired; don’t exercise until you’re exhausted.
Decrease in blood pressure – as the placenta grows, you develop more blood vessels. This causes your blood pressure to drop. From about the fourth month, try to avoid rapid changes of position. This includes changing from lying to standing and vice versa. This will help to avoid dizzy spells. Never stop suddenly,because it takes your heart longer to adjust and a sudden stop in movement may make you feel dizzy or faint. After the fourth month, avoid any leg exercises while lying on your back, because the weight of the fetus can reduce the return of blood to your heart.
Type of sport
Whether or not it is safe for you to participate in sport during your pregnancy depends a lot on the type of sport you play. General recommendations include:
Non-contact sport – this is any sport that doesn’t involve the possibility of contact with another player, such as swimming, walking and jogging. In most cases, it is safe for pregnant women to play non-contact sports during the entire pregnancy, as long as they consult closely with their doctor and don’t over-exert themselves.
Minimal contact sports – this is sport that involves minimal contact, such as racquet sports and netball. These sports are considered safe during the first trimester (first three months) with the possibility of continuing into the second trimester depending on the circumstances (ie the level of competition, fitness of the mother and state of the pregnancy). Consult closely with your doctor if you wish to continue playing into your second trimester.
Contact and collision sports – contact and collision sports, such as soccer and basketball, are considered safe only in the first trimester.
Lifting and straining – exercises that involve straining, such as lifting heavy weights, are also potentially dangerous (particularly in the later stages of pregnancy) and are not recommended.
Sports to avoid altogether
Some sports or activities should be avoided during pregnancy. They include:
The risk of overheating during play
It is important to avoid getting overheated during pregnancy. Avoid exercising in hot or humid weather and in areas with poor ventilation. General suggestions include:
Don’t play sports on hot or humid days.
Avoid playing sports when you are ill or have a fever.
Make sure you drink plenty of water before, during and after sport.
Wear lightweight clothing.
Interchange with other players as often as possible so you get plenty of rest breaks.
The risk of injury during play
When you are pregnant, the changes going on in your body can make you more likely to injure yourself. For example:
Hormones such as relaxin soften ligaments, which increases your risk of joint injuries.
The extra weight places additional strain on joints and muscles.
Your growing belly affects your balance by pushing your centre of gravity forward.
See your doctor immediately
If you experience any of the following symptoms during or after exercise, you should stop and contact your doctor immediately:
High heart rate
Dizziness or faintness
Bleeding or amniotic fluid leakage
Shortness of breath
Back or pelvic pain
Decreased fetal movements
Severe and rapid swelling of your face, hands or ankles.
Any illness or pregnancy complication should be fully assessed and discussed before you start or continue an exercise program.
Things to remember
Pregnancy is a natural condition rather than an illness. Unless you have complications, it should be possible to enjoy your sport at some level throughout most of your pregnancy.
It is important to discuss the issues with your doctor and sporting organization before you make a decision.
If you have a medical condition such as pre-eclampsia, or if you are carrying a high-risk pregnancy such as multiple fetuses, your doctor may advise you to avoid playing sports altogether.
Abbreviations July 19, 2012
Surrogacy has many abbreviations, here are a few of the more common ones that you may come across
2WW: Two week wait
12dp3dt : 12 days past 3 day transfer
12dp5dt: 12 days past 5 day transfer
ACA : Anticardiolipin Antibodies
AF Aunt Flo = period arriving / bleeding starting
AH : Assisted Hatching
AHR :Assisted Human Reproduction
ANA :Antinuclear Antibodies
ART: Assisted Reproductive Technologies
BBT: Basal Body Temperature
BCP: Birth Control Pill
Beta: hCG level blood test
BFP/BFN : Big Fat Positive/Negative
BMI: Body Mass Index
COH : Controlled Ovarian Hyper-stimulation
CD :Cycle Day
DH/DW/DS/DD: Dear Husband/Wife/Son/Daughter
ED: Egg Donor
EED:Estimated Due Date
ER/ET: Embryo Retrieval/Transfer
FSH: Follicle Stimulating Hormone
FET: Frozen Embryo Transfer
GIFT:Gamete intra-fallopian tube transfer
GS :Gestational Surrogate
hCG: Human Chorionic Gonadfotropin
HPT: Home Pregnancy Test
ICSI: Intra-Cytoplasmic Sperm Injection
IP: Intended Parent
IVF :In Vitro Fertilization
IVIg: Intra-venous immunoglobulin therapy
IVM: In Vitro Maturation
LMP :Last Menstrual Period
LH: Luteinizing Hormone
LP : Luteal Phase
LPD : Luteal Phase Defect
OHSS: Ovarian Hyper-stimulation Syndrome
PCO: Polycystic Ovarian Disease
PCOS: Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome
PCP: Primary Care Physician
PGD: Preimplantation Genetic Diagnosis(Pre gender determination)
PID Pelvic Inflammatory Disease
PIO: Progesterone in Oil
POAS: Pee on a stick – home pregnancy test
POF: Premature Ovarian Failure
PUPO :Pregnant Until Proven Otherwise
RE: Reproductive Endocrinologist
SM :Surrogate Mom
TCM: Traditional Chinese Medicine
TDI :Therapeutic Donor Insemination
TET: Tubal Embryo Transfer
TR : Tubal Reversal
TS: Traditional Surrogate
TTC: Trying To Conceive
Vag Rockets: Progesterone capsules
Here is a list of books that I strongly recommend, whether surrogate, Intended parent, or for your children. They are all available on http://www.amazon.com
Mommies, Daddies, Donors, Surrogates: Answering Tough Questions and Building Strong Families
By Diane Ehrensaft
A tiny itsy bitsy gift of life, an egg donor story
By Carmen Martinez Jover
When Nature’s Not Enough: Personal Journeys through In Vitro Fertilization
By Diana M. Olick